The
stories we share read like cautionary 'tails' from a bad self-help book. Here's
a dramatized version of what many of us have been through:
"At first we were
happy. CaterWaulter," (not the
cat's real name) "couldn't get enough of me." Catherine,
an executive in a multi-national finance company, is successful in all other areas of her life,
but has serious issues when it comes to cats.
"I didn't
even want a cat. I mean...I know what they're like. I've
been hurt before."
"But Waulter pursued me.
He was there by my car every day for the next two weeks. He'd nudge up against me and let me scratch
his belly. He made me laugh."
"Eventually,
he wore me down. I began to think things
could be different with him."
"Finally,
I decided to take a chance."
"It was good, at first. We spent
a lot of time together; playing, snuggling...sometimes we'd just hang out for
hours saying nothing. It
felt like we were made for each other."
"I hated leaving in the mornings, and he couldn't
wait for me to come back home...in the beginning, anyway."
"But, it wasn't long before things began to change. I'd try to kiss him and he'd turn
away. I'd pick him up and he'd wriggle
out of my arms. My attentions became
more and more unwelcome."
"His
rejection hurt. I would try,
pathetically, to win him back. I became
desperate to please."
"I'd make
special food for him, make the water
drip in the sink just the way he liked it, let him eat all my yogurt... If he
fell asleep in my lap I'd avoid waking him.
My arms and legs could fall asleep but I wouldn't budge."
"As if he needed the sleep! I was the one out working all day to support
us!" Catherine sounds bitter.
"It only got worse.
He began to disappear. He'd leave
in the middle of the night. Sometimes he
wouldn't come home."
"He got abusive
at times. He'd turn on me and scratch without
warning - even bit me a few times." She takes a deep breath. "I have scars."
"I just can't
understand it. I did everything for him!
What did I do wrong?” Catherine trails off, dabbing at her tears.
This is all too
common.
A cat woos with
the charm of Casanova, then pulls away the minute you make room for him in your home
and your heart.
Most felines have fears around the idea of
intimacy. The stresses of life together bring up these fears: veterinarians, brushing,
nail clipping, your presence in their homes...
These all represent long-term attachment, and that terrifies them.
For many cats it will always be easier to leave than to stay
and work through their fears.
They will, often, begin running away; sometimes literally, sometimes they'll just
hide on a shelf and ignore you calling their names.
A cat enjoys you
fawning over him, but only on
their schedules.
You can't change them. Cats
change for no one.
You must change.
You have to take a long
look at your own beliefs and motivations: Are you
choosing a cat because you believe, deep down, that you don't deserve love?
Ask yourself this
crucial question:
If you were truly ready for a loving, committed, pain-free relationship, would you not have
chosen a dog?
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