A Delicate Balance
I am learning, in an ongoing, slogging-through-life kind of
way, one lesson: over and over and over and
over...again.
You just can't please
everyone, anyone.
Every day, in every way, I get closer to what I know is the
only way to live:
Doing whatever the hell I want, whenever the hell I
want to do it, in whatever the hell damn clothes I want to do this life
thing in.
Because no one is ever going to approve of 100% of who and what you are, except yourself. No, wait, scrap that. Forget the approval. The only one who will understand where you're coming from is you.
Too Much Contradictory Input
I guess I hang out with a very diverse group of people. I swear, I've been judged as being a complete slacker when it comes to appearance. I mean, to one group the fact that my bag came from Target, my nails are never done, and I haven't visited 'my aesthetician' for whatever latest facial or brow upgrade is deemed necessary brands me as one step above a cavewoman.
I can live with that.
But then I'm with a more casual, natural-type crowd, suddenly I'm getting flack as if I'm Princess Grace in her hey-day waltzing in wearing an evening gown to go to the beach.
But then I'm with a more casual, natural-type crowd, suddenly I'm getting flack as if I'm Princess Grace in her hey-day waltzing in wearing an evening gown to go to the beach.
"Women Dress For Other Women"
Someone recently mentioned the old adage that
'Women dress for other women." Can that be true?
Oh lord, I hope not. Because there's still the question of which women you're gonna please at any given moment.
And, so, it's finally dawned on me...that the woman I'm attempting to please may as well be me.
Men Don't Care How If Women Dress
In my experience, dressing for men is easy: They don't really give a crap what you wear. I think most men barely register what a woman is wearing.
And for the most part, neither do I. Maybe it was growing up with only brothers?
I've really struggled with the slings and arrows of other women. I still get surprised they'd even have an opinion.
I'm to the point of just wanting to feel as good as
possible in my clothes - comfortable in them physically, and comfortable
with them just for appearance's sake.
These days, when making wardrobe choices, I try to
think about the activities I'll be doing, the weather I'll be doing it in,
and what strikes me as cute and comfortable in the
moment.
I still get it wrong a lot. I still see photos later and wonder what the heck I was thinking. But, mainly, I feel pretty good about having what I need when I need it. (Which, of course, is shockingly easy at the moment. A pandemic will sure set priorities straight. Thanks, once again, Covid-19!)
Daily Hits of Happy
-Summery foods: coleslaw, watermelon, tuna salad, mango slices
-Learning how to make coleslaw. For some reason, it never really occurred to me to make this. I only bought those slaw mixes for making 'Crack Slaw'.
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